Anywho, marriages are highly over-rated according to me. I'll try to take this one, a step at a time. Why get married in the first place?? Various reasons include license to have sex (not so much anymore), license to reproduce, social pressures, convenience or in some cases love. Now the other reasons I don't really want to refute. But the last one..... Do you really need a certificate to commit to someone you truly love? Do you really need meaningless ceremonies and rituals to show your love for that someone? Is the presence of hundreds of people who hardly care for anything but the free food and booze and pretty dresses necessary when you make the most important promise of your life?? Why the show and the pretense?? If you truly love someone and would like to spend your life with him then do you need to be bound by a social contract??
(On a sidenote, I'm not really sure when one should get married. Somehow 'to whom' seems more important. Or maybe not. Ahhh well... )
Hence it seems utterly futile to me to put up a show for the entertainment of others. (Unless you want to wear pretty dresses and feel like a queen/king for a couple of days.... Marriage is probably the only thing where you get to do this unless you are a celebrity that is... ) And does it look like I care if a random judge in a derelict building recognises my commitment/marriage?!??!
Isn't it all just about being there for each other? About living life together as it comes no matter what? About doing that coz you want to and its fun, not because once you signed a piece of paper together.
So if someday I decide to get married I'd like to elope. (This might also have to do something with the fact that I like the idea of running away.) Yes, not elope and go to the first temple on the way and get some random dude to perform meaningless rites but runaway to a beautiful place, probably a mountain or exceptionally tallllllll building considering my fascination for heights, and say 'I do' or the equivalent to each other in the presence of a rising sun. That would be more than enough to ensure that I try my best to give everything to a commitment that means a lot to me. I don't need functions and ceremonies to mark the marriage. I only need to hear it and say it without any witnesses except the two people who intend to keep that promise. And if this could be called a marriage that is how I'd like to be married.
PS: The break from thinking is over now! :D
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